I
have a buzz of activity around me. I get up in the morning and I see
my cousin running about trying to get ‘everything in place’ for her
daughter and her husband before the morning starts. They would both then
go to work after leaving their daughter at the young children play
group for the day. She fishes out an umpteen amount of food tins and
pastes and what have you, getting going with her breakfast making and
tiffin-making and dinner preparation for later. She has one hour before
everyone wakes up and she then has to get ready herself, to go to work
and also get her little one ready. She juggles with the food-making and
laying out the ‘right clothes’ for everyone. In an hour she has
everything spick and span and in place. Everything is ready! She wakes
them up and tries to cajole and coax with the tiny tot for the next half
hour, to eat and wash and dress. All the while as hubby dear sits at
the breakfast table, once brushing his teeth and concentrating hard at
the television and the news updates and then again, attacking his
breakfast with an appetite of a man famished. All almost done! Everyone
ready! My cousin vanishes to revive her energy and appears an hour
later, all done. And everyone is ready to go. My cousin screams to my
cousin-in-law as she hurriedly scribbles the ‘needed grocery’ on a piece
of paper and she dashes to and fro as she gathers scarves and woollies
and mitts. And finally they are all gone, leaving me seated in the nice
country kitchen, for the morning.
This
is not unique to them. Millions of households have the same routine
everyday, everywhere. It set me thinking. Here was this woman, doing a
massive amount of work everyday. I do not say that the man does not
work. But I am focussing on the woman here. She has woken up earlier,
she has cooked, she has set things ready for everyone, she has taken
care of herself, she too has gone out to work. And she is only a flesh
and blood person. How much can she do? Yet we do not thank her. We take
her for granted. It is sad that we feel we can do that. That we have the
right to do that. Just because someone has taken on the responsibility
of taking care of us? And often we do not gloat in the pride that this
woman is doing a lot and we never stop to think that she is wonderful.
When I was small and my Mom used to take care of me, I used to tell
myself that I would eat whatever was put before me, even if it was
burnt. She deserves to burn it once in a while. Making demands was
unthinkable. While perhaps she never wanted to be thanked……..I feel
every woman out there who takes care of a household, should be
appreciated.
And it does not cost us a penny to whisper a Thank you, now and again.
By Anusmita Baruah
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