Sexuality in Marriage and Family
When God made the first couple, included in his emotional and physical bodies and the sexual instinct. And it did so with very high purposes, as everything that the Creator made. Thus, sexuality is part of the life of any human being. It, no one can get away. When someone says they are male or female, is implied the idea of sex, so natural. In marriage, sexuality plays a fundamental role, essential for the proper relationship between spouses, within the plan of God for marriage. Let us reflect a little on this important subject.
BIBLICAL VISION OF SEX WAS MADE BY GOD
- God made man, including sex, and "saw that it was good." Genesis 1:31. The hands that made the eyes, the brain, also made sexual organs. He who created the mind, also created the sexual instinct. - Jesus, even in his divine mission, was normal man, including sexuality, sanctifying the purity and holiness of your body. He was circumcised on the eighth day. Luke 2:21-23. "And the Word became flesh ..." (man) Jo L.L. 1
THE PLAN OF GOD IN RELATION TO SEX
God wanted, in his sovereignty, the man DIRECTLY participate in the work of creation, through procreation, giving you wonderful instruments which are the organs and the sexual instinct. In this plan, we observe the following, within the will of God:
USE OF SEXUAL ORGANS OF PRIVATE IS MARRIED.
In order to grow and multiply was not given a single, but married. Gen. 1.27,28. - God did not want man to live alone. Gen. 2.18,24 Psalms 68.6, 113.9. - God calls man to enjoy sex with his wife and not his girlfriend or fiancee, In Song of Solomon, has exaltation of conjugal love and not between unmarried. Ct 4.1-12, Ephesians 5.22-25.
A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP OF CHRISTIAN
* Planned by God (Gen. 1:27-28, 2:24)
* It was not, is not and will not be sin (within the principles of God): Hb 13.4;
* Procreation (Gen. 1:27, 28). "In a wonderful way ..." Psalm 139:13-16.
* Mutual adjustment between husband and wife (1 Cor 7.1-7);
The precautionary principle (v. 2);
The principle of mutual right (or duty) (v.3);
The principle of mutual authority (v. 4);
The principle of habit (v. 5).
* Satisfaction (welfare, pleasure): Proverbs 5:18-23; Ecclesiastes 9:9; See Book of Song of Solomon (4. 1-12; 7.1-9)
* God values the sexual union between husband and wife (Deut. 24.5)
HOW SHOULD, IN GOD'S PLAN
* Exclusive (Gen. 2:24; Prov. 5:17);
* Alegre (Proverbs 5:18) * Santa (1 Peter 1:15, 1 Thessalonians 4.4-8)
* Natural (Ct 2.6, 8.3)
* Observe the meaning of the Body for God as TEMPLE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT OF GOD AND PROPERTY 1 Co 6:19-20
SEXUALITY IN MIDDLE-AGED
From the middle-aged (40-55 years), difficulties begin to arise sexual area. There are a number of crises: physical, emotional, nervous, etc..
The way to tackle the problems of this stage of life depends on the mental attitude of each one: if you trust in God, faces with ease, and win if you do not trust, sees it as a tragedy, and is defeated;
What is the end for some, for others it is the beginning of a new phase of life, full of experiences, accomplishments and positive expectations;
OWN CHANGES OF MIDDLE-AGED
The physical appearance changes dramatically, the mirror seems CRUEL: fats where we do not want there; beard going gray, sagging skin, wrinkles, baldness, etc.., It affects sexuality;
physical energies diminish, but resistance may remain and even increase the beneficial use of mental energies, leading to emotional balance.
If you get stuck youth, wanting to stop time, man is nothing;
If you have spiritual vision will be thankful to God for being in middle age, facing changes as normal in your life;
The man comes to see the older woman, the less attractive your eyes, there are men who despair, become depressed, and others give way to temptation, falling into the sin of adultery, fornication, etc.. no one who seeks refuge in porn, erotic movies and magazines, but this only increases the problem. Great men of God have fallen into the trap of sex.
CARE REQUIRED FOR A HEALTHY LIFE
In middle age, more than in other period of life, it is important to use an appropriate plan of emotional and physical development. One should not want to compete with the young but important adequate nutrition, regular medical examination, according to age, emotional control, rest systematic, common sense, discipline, beyond the healthy practice of proper exercise (walking are the most recommended).
The Bible does not condemn the exercise. Just shows that, in relation to piety, for some value (1 Timothy 4.8).
The Christian man and woman need to understand the value of sexuality, and be thankful to God for that. There needs to be a comprehensive overview of the subject, so do not get carried away by the concepts and prejudices that only do harm the good relationship between people, especially between husband and wife, to whom God gave the blessing of conjugal union, as something beautiful, holy and pleasing, not only procreative end but as a means of obtaining a stable relationship, full of joy and pleasure.
The role of family in child sex education
No doubt, if there is a recipe for a healthy adolescence and consequently set a sexuality, she would undergo a significant parent, they should match or harmonize authority and affection.
Young people prefer the family as the primary agent of sexuality education, but refer to feel enormous difficulty of communication in general, even more on the topic sexuality. The absence of parents ultimately facilitate the media to occupy the main role socialization of children and adolescents.
In relation to children x parent education for love and sexuality education you can not outsource. The family has to assume its role, may, however, rely on the help of the doctor, the teacher, etc..
You need to pay contributions over time as best as possible between all the needs in the education of children. The amount of time parents spend with their children, but not necessarily in a good relationship. It is necessary that we improve the quality of the relationship in the moments in which we are with family, or with children, either with (a) partner (a).
"The role of the family unit is extremely important and begins by the fact that parents live a cohesive family, united and orderly, respectable in order to function as a model to be followed by the young model that they will seek to duplicate eventually when you get your time. Such a component is unofficial, so to speak, of what is called formal sexual education, because everything depends on a process of teaching / learning, which starts very early at home from the moment that the child observes and abstracts the lives of their families that set of facts that eventually you will be marked for the rest of their lives, "says Ronald Bossemeyer well known Brazilian gynecologist.
As a final comment, we emphasize the importance of encouraging dialogue, understanding and trust are essential to bring parents and children. Not to mention the warm contact, affection, food for the body of the soul.
Women need health care, need to do periodic examinations. Ex: Pap smear, ultrasound, etc ...
Diseases detected preventively have higher chances of cure, improvement, the diagnosis detected immediately, helps in better recovery.
The Christian man must understand the value of sexuality, and be thankful to God for that. There needs to be a comprehensive overview of the subject, so do not get carried away by the concepts and prejudices that only do harm the good relationship between people, especially between husband and wife, to whom God gave the blessing of conjugal union, as something beautiful, holy and pleasing, not only procreative end but as a means of obtaining a stable relationship, full of joy and pleasure.