In these days and times when sexual
violence and gender-based violence is so rampant, one wonders if the onus
solely lies on women to do or not do something to avoid mistreatment. Sure, it
feels like that. But it takes two hands to clap, and the fact of the matter
remains that there is an imminent need for men and boys to be as involved and
engaged in the process of protecting women and their rights as it is for women
themselves.
While there is every ounce of pragmatism in
involving women in any program that aspires to keep sexual violence and rape at
bay, there is an added degree of prudence in involving men, as well. Rape and
sexual violence of any form turn a woman’s body into a battleground. With many
women facing the same predicament unconditionally, there is a gradual
culmination in the degeneration of the social fabric of the nation, and slowly,
the world. Teaching your girls not to get raped becomes priority, and people
forget that it is as important to teach your boys not to rape. Sexual violence
soon becomes the "best" weapon in conflict is because when the bodies
of women become battlegrounds, the future of the country is lost- women are
stigmatized, so the social institutions of families and procreative alliances
breakdown. Men must be involved in the process of reconstruction by making them
realize and understand the fact that there is no wrong on part of the women
themselves for having been subjected to rape.
So what needs to be done?
The ideal starting point is to inculcate understanding
as to why rape is such an "effective" form of terrorism and genocide.
Men must be made taught to understand that Rape does not only affect women but
also their children, or, as the case may be, future children. Families must be
able to understand the fact that rape has ramifications that affect them as
well. Rape and Sexual Violence prevents mothers and wives from fulfilling their
normal roles, it disrupts relationships between a husband and wife through the
intervention of a spurious worm of distrust. Children suffer consequences as
well, and when this happens throughout an entire community it then disrupts
normal function of all contributors to that particular economy.
Another issue that must be taken into
consideration is that in cases of sexual violence rarely do programs focus on
the effect the incident has on men and their psyche. For starters, it is vital
that the responsibility quotient or the blame factor should be tackled. There
may be instances where men may feel they wronged their sisters, or daughters,
or wives or mothers by not stopping them from being subjected to rape.
The relevance of this modus operandi in
today’s context comes from the understanding of one point: that everything- be
it culture or gender, is learned by imbibitions. When that is the case, if
there is a culture of silence and impunity, it only breeds the birth of more
harm. Men must not see women who are already raped as easy targets, because,
well, they've already been raped. Significantly, it is also a very valid
premise to understand that men must be involved in a program that understands
that they also have been victimised.
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