One of the most important questions philosophers of all times have asked to themselves is about the sense of life. Many people believe that the core sense of life is to be happy (i.e. to find the source of happiness for yourself and create the atmosphere of happiness around you). Happiness is a very complex concept. Everyone feels it individually and therefore defines it in his or her own way. In fact, men and women see happiness variously due to the difference in their nature. This deserves a deeper look into it…
Quite often happiness is identified with wealth. John Ralston Saul, a Canadian political philosopher gave a simple explanation on that. "The Enlightenment theory of happiness was an expression of public good or the public welfare, of the contentment of the people," Mr. Saul said. And, he added, this could not be further from "the 20th-century idea that you should smile because you're at Disneyland."
It's pretty hard to tell what does bring happiness. Poverty and wealth have both failed.
~Frank McKinney "Kin" Hubbard
~Frank McKinney "Kin" Hubbard
Nowadays, the materialistic approach to life and its values has proven to fail. As happiness can not be measured in material things, the consumerismphenomenon of 20th century illustrates evidently that the raise of buying power did not consequently increase the satisfaction in people’s life. Wealthy people might be as unhappy with their lives, as the ones with low income. And therefore it is important to understand what actually makes us happy.
Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.
As said above, happiness is defined by everyone of us individually. I personally would agree with opinion shared on www.scholaradvisor.com, where the author of the article states that “…having progress in life, a feeling of forward motion, can make people feel happy.” He then also says that apart from setting goals in life and accomplishing them, which gives people the feeling of purpose, they should also have positive attitude.
If you want to be happy, be.
It is rather interesting to learn about some of the differences between the way men and women feel happy. Beth S, M.D. says in her article that there is a difference indeed. “Actually, men's feelings are literally in a different place in their bodies. Women feel happy right in the middle of their chest, like a vibration of happiness. A man, when he feels happy, it's his upper chest and shoulders and neck that fill with energy. If you're watching him, he will literally puff up. He'll look bigger. If he has a moment of ecstasy and is really happy, it flows out through the chest and into his arms and hands, and that's where you get high-fives, or jumping up to hit a cross-beam.” The difference is not only physiological, of course.
Cristen Congerrefers to “The 2003 Pew Global Attitudes Project that surveyed 38,000 men and women across 44 countries that lends insight into the disparities between male and female happiness. Overall, women scored themselves as more satisfied with their lives than men. Moreover, women from certain countries, including Pakistan, Japan and Argentina, appeared significantly happier. The differences between what affects men and women's levels of happiness explains this slight gender gap. Women, for instance, tend to focus on personal and domestic problems, while men concern themselves more with matters outside of the home.”
Happiness is always a by-product. It is probably a matter of temperament, and for anything I know it may be glandular. But it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you had better stop worrying about it and see what treasures you can pluck from your own brand of unhappiness.
“This variation in values”, Cristen Conger continues -“is also reflected in how the recent recession has affected people's happiness. According to a Nielson Happiness Survey conducted in 51 countries, men's happiness hasn't weathered the economic storm well since they attach more importance to financial success than women. On the other hand, the women surveyed indicated they appreciated quality relationships above all.”
As a summary to all of us,all those women who might feel unhappy with their lives or gave in on finding happiness in everyday routine: dream – setgoals –strive for reaching your aim – do what you enjoy doing in your life – stay positive regardless anything. And probably the last tip…
The best vitamin to be a happy person is B1.
P.S. Make up your mind on being happy. If you want it, be certain you deserve it and so you will have it.
Happiness is a form of courage.