Daily we acquaint ourselves with people of different colors , sizes and cultures . Out of many , whom we come across ,only few are able to retain themselves in our mind and then eventually in our hearts .
‘Masking‘. The act of concealing or disguising. Amongst the many evolutionary /revolutionary changes man has undergone, nothing more than the simple act of disguise has ,been honed . It is perhaps our chanting mechanism. The face we present to the world is rarely our real face .
Coded by the masks people put on , we often associate ourselves with the wrong people and thus for the rest of our lives we keep seeking for “that particular person “ who inspired us . With whom the world seemed a joyous celebration.
So the question is. How do we know who is worth entrusting our emotions in ? Who actually respects us and who is sabotaging our emotional availability?
There are many situations where the act of masking is dropped off . It is often in the presence of non persons . “ Non person “ according to the book “ Body language “ by Julius Fast are “ people not worth concerning ourselves about “ . In other words people such as our parents , siblings , children and especially the help around the house ( maids, drivers , cook , washing lady etc ).
“If you want to know what a man's like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire
A clever yet simple quote from the famous Harry Potter aptly illustrates the phenomena of judging people for who they truly are .
Masking is somewhat necessary , and is decreed by the society we reside in . Nevertheless , at proper times the mask should be dropped , it is obligatory to do so if one wants to develop healthy , functional relationships .
Paradoxically, the big problem is that after wearing a mask for almost a life time ,some of us are unable to easily drop it which ultimately not only harms ourselves but the people around us as well .
Despite our utmost attempts to conceal our true selves , our body language transmits enough signals to scream out to people , who we really are and what to expect us . In my opinion people hardly change, the things we become oblivious to about a person initially , eventually become apparent over the passage of time .