Tuesday, 23 July 2013



Daily we acquaint ourselves with people of different  colors , sizes and cultures . Out of many , whom we  come across ,only few are able to retain themselves in our mind and then eventually in our hearts .

‘Masking‘.  The act of concealing or disguising.  Amongst the many evolutionary /revolutionary changes man has undergone, nothing more than the simple act of disguise has ,been honed . It is perhaps our chanting mechanism. The face we present to the world is rarely our real face .

Coded by the masks people put on , we often associate ourselves with the wrong people and thus for the rest of our lives we keep seeking  for “that particular person  “ who inspired us . With whom the world seemed a joyous celebration.
So the question is. How do we know who is  worth entrusting our emotions in ? Who actually respects us and who is sabotaging our emotional availability?

There are many situations where  the act of masking is dropped off .  It is often in the presence of non persons . “ Non person “ according to the book “ Body language “ by Julius Fast are “ people not worth concerning ourselves about “ . In other words people such as our parents , siblings , children and especially the help around the house ( maids, drivers , cook , washing lady etc ).

 “If you want to know what a man's like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

A clever  yet simple  quote from the famous Harry Potter  aptly illustrates the  phenomena of judging people for who they truly  are .
Masking is somewhat necessary , and is decreed by the society  we reside in . Nevertheless , at proper times the mask should be dropped  , it is obligatory to do so if one wants to develop healthy , functional relationships .
Paradoxically, the big problem is that after wearing a mask for almost a life time ,some of us are unable to easily drop it which ultimately not only harms ourselves but the people around us as well .

Despite our utmost attempts to conceal our true selves , our  body language transmits enough signals to scream out to people , who we really are and what to expect  us . In my opinion people hardly change, the things we become oblivious to about a person  initially , eventually become apparent over the passage of time .

                                                                                                     By : Mariam Samuel


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